Tuesday, July 21, 2009

The current situation

What a week it’s been. Since last Monday, The Episcopal Church reaffirmed passed two resolutions stating that the ordination process is open to all people and calling bishops to grant a pastoral response to gay and lesbian couples and start gathering materials for a future discussion on a formal liturgy, resolutions D025 and C056 respectively.

The initial responses were, as expected, as divided as they ever have been. Some strong conservative voices came out, most notably Bishop of Wright (CoE). There were also several responses from bishops within TEC on both sides, the conservative voice being aired quite a bit.

What hasn’t been seen are the official responses from places like Nigeria, Rwanda, Uganda etc. I think I expected a hailstorm of letters and op-ed pieces and a renewed call for the head of TEC on a silver platter ala John the Baptist.

Instead, relative silence. Oh I’m sure the responses will come. Maybe having ACNA is placating them for now as they feel sure (hopeful?) they will receive the much desired recognition from the Church of England.

Am I happy?

I have this mapping software at work, at various times when I have a slow moment and I need a break, I find it entertaining to ‘visit’ various places in the country and just zoom in and take a peak. You can only look at streets and certain various landmarks are noted, Google maps would probably work better, you can do an actual street view with that but I always have this at my fingertips.

Anyway, I found myself zooming into San Diego today. Ah, San Diego. I’ve been there twice, both times with a former partner. My list trip there was more than 10 years ago, give or take. But when I went I had not traveled much at all in my life so I quickly became enamored with the city. A dry, sunny 78 degrees for most of the year, it is a true paradise.

My partner and I broke up in 1999, eventually being able to become friends again. I suspect when we started hanging out again he secretly hoped we’d get back together. I won’t go into my evidence for that, but it just bears mentioning.

In 2000, he was approaching his graduation from college and was planning, as he always had, to move back to San Diego. You see, he had been stationed there when he joined the Navy out of high school. After leaving the Navy he stayed. I don’t remember how long he lived there but he eventually decided he wanted a better life so he came back to Kentucky to get his education and be with his family. Always planning on going back.

At this time in my life I had decided I wanted to move to a bigger city and San Diego seemed like the perfect move, bold, sunny, California! So we started making plans. Eventually those plans came to naught, for a couple of big reasons I won’t go into it right now.

Looking back on it, I don’t have 20/20 hindsight concerning the city or that time in my life. I don’t romanticize it. It’s a great place to be sure and that was a fun time for me.

However, I can’t help but wonder how my life would be going if there had been some way I actually upped and moved. Would I better off? Would I have found happiness?

When he first went out there, he very quickly met what seems to be a great guy. They moved in together and seemed happy. From his reports they seemed to be partying a lot, doing some things I found questionable, but who am I to judge? But part of is definitely glad I never had the opportunity to be involved with that. I haven’t here where I live, but I think I would have in San Diego. Would I even be alive today? I know I have a great capacity to do stupid things, my one saving grace is I tend to be introverted so I don’t get exposed to a lot of things just by virtue of that.

As I was staring at the map today I was reminded of the streets we went up and down in the Hillcrest neighborhood, University, Washington, Park. I wonder how his life is going, I wonder if he’s ok. Is he happy?

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

These days

What a life I lead. I have a new job, my discernment process has taken an 'official' turn and life in general seems to just be spiraling, not out of control, but in what seems at time a chaotic motion.

Right now I am adjusting to new work responsibilities, a new, appearance if you will, in church as people start knowing I'm in the process.

Seems like I have fewer and fewer venues for no stress these days.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Sunday

What a non-day.

Up somewhat early, had coffee, read the sports section, watched some tv, chilled and went to church.

Came home and we both chilled pretty good for most of the afternoon. Funny thing is, my fav tv show, Law & Order: SVU was a marathon on TNT. I started watching it, partner joined in, and then before we knew it, that was our entire afternoon. One episode after another. I loved it though, I loved the fact he watched my favorite show with me over and over.

Then it was time for wine and I had to, just had to, get somewhat of a workout in.

Long story short, all is well, the night is done. Partner is out, I'm off in another bed because he started earlier than me. I'm sitting here in bed on the computer with our girl dog. I'm cool.

Life is good.

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Today

Today was weird.

Up early, off to Farmer's Market. Then a short walk around downtown. Then to brunch at Mia's. I had a couple of very watery, bad, bloody marys. All before noon.

Then a long nap.

Then, cleaning the house, working out and taking the dogs with me on a jog.

Watching the Preakness, drinks talking about the boat. Chris came over. We walked to Roots for dinner then back here and listened to music and drinking.

I'm the last one up.

I love these kinds of Saturdays.

Looking forward to tomorrow.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Very early morning 5/16

Ok, so I currently hate my job, that's a given. The weekend is in full effect. So life is good.

Life is good for the most part. I'm not even going to bring up the most recent developments at work.

I know my relationship with God grows stronger every day. I pray every day for a stronger relationship and hope that the things I do will lead me further on that path.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Discernment / my partner

Well tonight was good. I talked with my partner again about my discernment process, i.e. becoming a priest. With some bumps along the conversation, things really turned out great. He wants me to pursue what I feel called to pursue, he feels it wouldn't be right to not pursue it. Given that, I still know there will be some big challenges along the way.

Ok, that's a big deal.

Now, hopefully, the rest will take care of itself.